Tuesday, 8 April 2014

14 FOR 14 Challenge (GROWING UP_ April)


“You stopped being you, and when things got hard you started  looking for something to Blame, like a big shadow. Let me tell you something you already know, the world aint all sunshine and rainbows, its a very mean and nasty place, and I don't care how strong you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. So you, me, or nobody is gonna hit us as hard as life, but it ain't about how hard you are hit, its about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much you can take and keep moving forward, that's how it is done…. Cause if you are willing to go through all the battle you are gonna get through to get to where you want, who has got the right to stop you? No Body!

Now if you know what you are worth, you have to be willing to go out there and get what you want, but you have to be willing to take the heat, and not point fingers saying you ain't where you want to be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that, and that ain't you! You are better than that.”

Good morning Great young mind, how is the week Going? Thank God its another ghen-ghen Tuesday. I so love the way Tuesday compensates for all the mistakes and wahala's of Mondays. I mean it helps one relax, and let the truck load of assignments and piled up works overdue from the weekend just slide like water on a rock, well except for Bankers sha, una job na millitary. :p

So I was forming Aristotle this morning and listening to a motivational video I downloaded from YouTube, and then I got the extracts quoted above, and was inspired for this post. They are from the Rocky Balboa movie of the 1970’s, acted by our very own Sylvester Stallone. To us young men aiming to be muscular, that guy na source of inspiration oh, but let’s leave that talk for the gym session and early morning Pushups. :)

Its funny how life goes from the perfection it once was when we were kids, when all we needed to do was cry and our Mothers would give us Breast milk, when all we needed to do was grumble and our Dads would give us the piece of meat in their plates to add to our own yes I did that a lot. Reality sets in pretty fast, and as our body grows, I believe that our minds grow 5x faster.

Trust Nigerian parents now, they always prepared us properly for the growth and maturity of our body. Mothers told their Daughters about Puberty (I remember how many times I was told “Junior Go to your room” cause of Womens talk between Mama and my Sister), and then Dads although never really sat the guys down to chat about growing up, and warn us about the changes our Bodies would face, we were however sternly warned with the “IF YOU GET ANY GIRL PREGNANT, YOU WILL LEAVE MY HOUSE! AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR FAMILY” Hmmmnn that’s was enough Puberty talk to keep our heads straight for a bit ;). Good oldies yeah. But sadly, nobody told us about the pressure our minds would go through, nobody talked to us about depression, nobody talked to us about rejection, nobody talked to us about heart breaks.

Life through my eyes is such an imbalance, as things tend to never be just what you want them to be. Huge projects and long term plans all crumble in a flash, Relationships break for the silliest of reasons, friends change, we fail, people die etc, and all these affect not the body which we were so prepared and ready to handle, but the mind which nobody talks(ed) to us about, maybe cause even the older ones didn't know better. But thats just life, It will never be fair, but will always be an unending Examination.

The pressures of the mind are sometimes suffocating, that Growing up seems like a ride and a Journey to the unknown. Its a battle after a battle to fight to discover our real self, our true potential, our actual purpose of existence, and at every battle, there has always been the option of giving up. I confess that there have been times that I was so confused, and thought to just give up on life. I trust I am not alone in this line of thoughts, as many Youths grow up with this very Fragile unprepared mind, minds willing to break at the mere sight of disappointments, minds that yield to pressure not because they can't learn to overcome them, but cause they have no source of strength to tackle such pressure, and were never forewarned about them. Well I confess, my mind is a piece of see through glass. :(

Let me tell you a story of a Young man called N. Yes he is Nigerian, and I met him during one of my many voyages of life. He was smart, had Fantastic grades, had a mega Rich Family that was willing to die for him et al, but this young man had a hole within him that seemed to not be filled no matter the exuberances he engaged in, nor how hard he tried to fill it. He had a deep confusion in him that oftentimes, he thought to end his life for reasons that he himself didint know. Some would say it was psychological, or even the village people that were doing him, But No! it was a confusion created in his mind that his life was not Good enough, it was a confusion caused by the rejection he had faced in his teenage years, the abandonment he had grown up with as a child, and maybe the molestation he had been affected with as a child. Certain times, I remember him telling me that he just didn't want to go on for reasons unknown to him. I tried to understand why, but I never really could. 

As we grew older, I have come to understand that it wasn't the absence of money or success (I mean the guys family was rich enough to pay him for life, and he was top 5 in an Engineering class), but it was his mind growing up too fast to face the world, and too Lonely that he believed he would never be truly loved or valued..

So to anyone out there like N thinking of giving up on life, on goals, on Dreams and on Love (trust me nah, me na lover boy.)  My advice to you, is that you: Always remember that the great times of life are far more than, and hugely outweigh the sad, hard, and bitter times, and if you quit, you will never get to tell the world your Beautiful story of how you overcame. Plus know that that challenge you are facing is to make you stronger, so that on the long run you can emancipate someone from a similar situation. 

P.S: May I add that N is on his way to making his First personal 1 million, and is doing really great in life now. He finally found a girl who likes him small, and so Thanks to him not Quitting he is inspiring young minds in Nigeria slowly but surely.  

P.P.S: When the world gets Crazy, turn to that which you believe in the most. Some believe in the Universe, some in deities, some in GOD, but the major thing is believe in your self to be strong enough to not quit, and to be able to have Faith in that which you believe in.

P.P.S: Thanks to everyone for their concern at my Last fridays Friend Zonal heart Break, it all turned out even more Beautiful.

Thank you for the last 7 minutes of your time, you do me such a great honor by investing in the YnC Blog.

Do have a Super Tuesday, and please, I use MTN take beg you: make today count yeah, cause now is all that we truly have.



  1. we at 3lokagroup gat your big Dreams back.....Ride on Engr

    1. Thank you so much Engr. Eloka, You do us such a great honor Sir, and we hope you enjoyed reading this post. Cheers.