Monday, 25 August 2014

The PURSE-suit of Happiness.





Good morning great Young mind, what’s cracking?? What’s the freaking 411?? Mehn before I say anything yeah, let me just tell you that I met ANOTHER girl. Lmao! Yep. And **in I.K of BBA's voice… Meeehhhnnn she fine. You see ehn working for someone can be frustratingly tiring sometimes. This life is a very funny place oh! Last week was Crazzzily boring for me, as my Oga’s them, that are always putting me on High tension traveled to Abuja and Obodo onyibo respectively, so I practically lounged through last week. Except for one Mumu Gap Analysis presentation I went for, from which all I learnt was GAP Analysis. Hehehe.. So as I was lounging on my own jejely oh, thinking my last week would end perfectly, I mean Monday to Wednesday involved just replying correspondences, and PLENTYYYYYYYYYY.... BLOGGING. Kai I went to almost every blog available that last week sha. **covers face, until Bam on Thursday Evening (Note the evening oh) I got one mad mail by 5 PM… (note the 5 PM again oh). I mean that was freaking COB, who gives a 22 year old officer an assignment by that time. So forming office Engr nah, I did overtime and decided to do the work, and then on Friday morning, my Oga broke my heart, and said “”THIS IS VERY WRONG!, and cannot be used”” Mehn I was burnt! Furious, Frustrated, and I mean **in Tibs voice godamnbulshit kinda Angry. Because of that calculation, I suffered both Mental, Traffical, Hungerical, and Overtime-ical stress on thursday, and all I get is a “”This is wrong” and the document wasn’t used for the meeting as planned. I don’t know oh, but it made me feel like Dead weight. :(… grrrr..nawa oh! Okay that’s the bad part of the story, so Part 2... The good part was that, You know they say there is a silver lining behind every cloud yeah, **Smiles well It was in the midst of this Overtime Cloud abi na hurricane, that I met that Fine babe of life above, Damn she finnneeee, and plus she is more confused.com than I am. Her name is You like Amebo ehnnnn lmao, lets just call her I.W Heheh. Oya let me confess, I went as far as using my Blog to Toast her get her attention! Oh mehn Thank god for the blogger status oh! In fact I will do an ID card and write C.E.O Young and Confused Blog, and flash it on every BRT I board :). Plus I think I am in love with her oh, yep i am master of catching feelings now! Hehehe scratch that oh jari… The Babe probably doesn’t have my time sef. I wanted to go out with her yeah, but I don't want to be too forward, plus hey, I have had too many heart attacks breaks this year, I have lost hope oh jari.


So… How was your weekend? Mine was Busyyy… I went on this long Journey with my Dad to Ogun state, and we ended up eating Lunch in a nylon bags… yep! like village men kinda lunch. Soup in a nylon, Fufu in another ** covers face but it was fun though. So this morning, permit my Epistle to revolve around something you already know, permit me to ask a question. 



WHAT DETERMINES HAPPINESS?



Is it determined by a girl you meet on a BRT bus that is fine like the morning star (**Winks @ Mr. Mamman), or is determined by your account balance reading 6 figures, or even 9 if you are lucky? Is Happiness determined by that Certificate or Diploma which reads 1.1, or 2.1 Honors, or by that Child that your husband did night vigil to pump into your stomach? Or is it by the numerous houses and investments that one is able to acquire? Or by that wonderful boy friend, or husband that you have, or wish to have? The truth is I don’t really know.


Life through my eyes is a bloody confusion, as I seem to be transitioning into a man faster than I ever imagined, but I am learning on a daily basis. You see in my 22 years 8 months, I have searched for happiness daily. I have used pursuing Women (yep.. a lot of times), Alcohol, Sex, Pornography, Coffee (heheheh yes nau), Video games, and Savvy tech devices to try and CREATE happiness, but I can boldly say that none of these ever worked. Every day, I watch people struggle so hard to create a life for themselves, work so hard in search of more money as they believe that Money creates happiness. I mean, i went to the market last Saturday, and watched as the butchers hustled throughout my stay to cheat, and hustle money. I wake up every day and see the Nigerian roads flooded with humans in a crazy endless search  for happiness, I see ladies struggling to find the right man all in a bid to be happy, but meeting I.W on that BRT last Thursday made me understand that Happiness is a choice, a decision, a conscious effort. I mean we all don’t have it perfect in this life, but deciding to be happy in the midst of the uncertainties of life is what makes it matter.I Dont know her well yet, but that Babe is AWESOME...


As I sat down at the back seat of my father’s LIMOUSINE (Trust me that man loves that old rugged Motor), Dad told me Tales of his time in Obodo onyibo, about how he struggled to start life doing the basest of jobs, how he worked through the winter in search of the golden Fleet , and in all, I saw the smile on his face as he described his experiences. You see Dad has been through the craziest of times, but just Like I.W, he always makes a conscious effort to be happy regardless. I recall when we lost the house, First thing he said was

""You guys go buy a TV, that will make us happy, And so if FG says we should run for our lives, we will not be left out"

So Right there and then I realized that Happiness is not about Money. But its a choice, it is a positive conscious decision to take a step, to make a move, to choose your emotions, to smile in the midst of crazy times, and in the midst of utmost confusion. So many of us wake up every day HOPING to be happy, but I can boldly tell you that HOPING to be happy will not cut it, but DECIDING to be happy is the key. Choosing to smile even in the most fucked up (pardon my term, just trying to be descriptive) of times will. So this morning yeah, I implore you to be the happiest that you can be, by making a conscious decision to smile in the midst of pains, by finding that one person that makes you happy and sticking to him or her regardless of what his or her flaws might be, and by sticking to GOD, and being grateful for his gifts, and for life. Plus hey, just as My Blog Mother Ms Janyl Benyl says,  ""A GRATEFUL HEART OPENS DOORS OF OPPORTUNITIES.""


I have met and heard so many BOKO HARAM lies about habits that make you happy, but trust me, no Habit indulged in, be it Jah rasta fried rice oh, or Sex related ever works, but what I have learnt is that Love and GOD are the 2 things that guarantee happiness.


Thank you for the last 7 minutes of your time, you guys are just wonderful. I mean the comments I received last week were just awesome, as I just kept taking Notes. Although some one literally called me a smallie oh **Winks at Muriel, but anyway, diarisgoddd. Each Monday, i look forward to being alive, and top of the reason for that is you guys. I duff my cap in honor of you YnC readers.


P.S: Remember I told you guys I was loving one YnC reader by faith yeah, well woooHooo,  it paid off :).. Remember that babe I told you I met on Blogsville now.. ehhmm her name..... is ehmmm.. Scratch that, I don’t know her name yet, but I call her C.P.C. She finally put up a picture of her, and damnn she fine like that oh! I mean I committed the sin of lookery soteyyyyy I should ask for forgiveness :p. But guys I feel I am stalking her too much, so amma just chill back. Kpata kpata if she wants me, ehen I will now accelerate, but if she don’t, I will just **In K-Cee Limpopo's voice Park and Pull over... Shey be that’s what you people thought me to do now last week! After all, we never really know what women want. :)

P.P.S: Shout out to My Brother Ashraff.. hehehe he finally started seeing my Blog. **Whispers is the first family to come over here. :) I am still using Rope to Draw my Elder Brother and Dockitar here, but the Journey still far... :(



Do have a Ghen ghen Week, and be the best that you can be. My prayer for you is that any BRT, bus, or Okada that you have been destined to board to meet your Future partner, or future Job, or future contract will not leave you behind eh... #PastorJdBmode



Cheers.

#Udo.

28 comments:

  1. To answer ur question, my happiness is determined by food (food is life my dear, I can't deny I love it), tv (if my dstv expires is like the world is coming to an end cus I love watching discovery, reality shows and yoruba movies *covers face), and my internet data on my phone and ipad.

    On a serious note, I've seen the lowest of lows in life before and I found out that if I don't brood over them in worry and despair I will come out of it without noticing it. Well, like u said happiness is within. Its a choice, I've known that for 3yrs now.

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    1. hahahhahahaha @my happiness is determined by food, DSTV, and internet.. I soooo need to come see you at your house oh!!! **Winks... maybe your list of happy factors might add 1... hhehehe You are Funny aswear.. Baby mi, you ehnnnn.. kai! Wow, You are so on point Baby mi, as long as we don't Brood, it will be an easy passage through the tough times, and soon we will be outta the rut.... I can so relate with that statement..

      Lemme tell you something... You see you ehn Muriel, when I see your comments, I immediately turn on my Mr Nigeria Charm. it feels like you are right here, and I am trying to impress you. hehehe yep you Bad like that. Thanks for this comment Bubba, I am glad you could relate to this post..

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  2. Hehe.....the Gap Analysis.....hehe.....okay Papi...you know I always talk bout Happiness....Papi...I have to be happy...I mean - I can't remember the last time I was unhappy bout something....even when the feeling swoops in...I got the 'need to be happy' thoughts beating the crap out of unhappiness...Papi.....I could NEVER compromise my happiness for ANYONE on the earth.....cuz I have tasted unhappiness and mehnnnnnnnn......naaaa.....never again....papi...it is very important to do that which will make you happy....I am really happy to have met you......hehe...I could never trade that feeling for anything......

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    2. Hehehehe Tibs my Liebster of life.. **In MOBY'S Voice... Oya Chop kiss... I am really Glad I met you too Bubba, I mean Thank GOD I met you.. You are just Awesome by Nature Ernie, we all know and see that :) and trust me, we appreciate that too. True that Bubba, Happiness should never be equated or compromised for anything.. But sadly, as the confused Human that I am, I always find my self almost getting stuck in the rut of unhappiness.. I think I need to get me some 'need to be happy" thoughts for Back up.
      Thanks for this awesome comment Bubba, I appreciate your love, support and care Mzz. Erniesha Tibs. I mean you came here, and YnC became there,... We will never Forget... GOD bless you and Skinny Mofaya Baby mi.

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  3. Happiness is a conscious choice mehn!
    I am happy because I chose to be. I think of mundane stuff that gets me excited and I am just happy to be able to feel such joy.
    It used to be dark but I made the choice never to go down that road.
    So for me,yes its a choice.
    Lol @ the child that your husband used night vigil to pump in your stomach. Thats just epic.

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    1. heheheheheh Funmi of life in the Buildiiinggg!!! hehehe Yes nah, as its hard to Pusshhhh for you Ladies, so its hard for us guys to send in the right gang of s-Thieves into Forte Knox.. **Covers face**Runsaway.. :)

      I am happy for you Babe, and I am glad that you have come to that conscious realization, i hope to get there, and stay there soon. Truly happiness is a choice as you said, and it lies on us to either choose to smile, or accept our emotional lies, and wallow in unnecessary sadness. Thanks for coming by Bubba, I mean your comments always give me a "Cause I am Happy" kinda feeling.. :) Cheers babe...

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  4. Hehe my family makes me happy..my happiness is paramount to me and I always try to achieve thus despite life challenges. Lol funny you should start a career in comedy...nna be like na only fine gehs get you ni? daris God o lool the way I read your posts like someone is whispering the words to my ears hehehe you bad like that

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    1. @ ""nna be like na only fine gehs get you ni?"" hahahah Baby what should I do nah?? If i don't pursue woman now my Blood is still HOT, is it when i am 30 and chasing Money, and Family that I will.. Abegiii lemme enjoy my 20's eh! hehehehe **Winks. Truly Happiness starts and ends with Family like you said Agbani, cause its Family Over Everythingg all time every time...... Awgh, thanks Bubba, i am humbled by those kind words, and you just gave us 1 more reason to keep trying, and keep writing. GOD bless you Baby mi... And trust me, You fine like That Tosyne Afolabi of life.....

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  5. Funny thing I've been thinking about happiness and the pursuit of happiness for almost a week. You raised a number of valid point in your usual humorous manner and have given me plenty to think about.
    So you're in love again? Ghen ghen! Knowing you I'm sure she's cute and smart, try and see if this one will last, biko!

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    1. Yeeesss Bossss.. Adaeze is back.. but wait first oh!!! **Wears straight face.. Woman Ebe e ghara sincee?? (What it is SUPPOSED to mean is ) Where did you go since? **Covers face, dang my Igbo na wa oh! heheheh Awghhh Baby mi, i am so glad you are back.. yippeeee.. wwooohhhoo... My Pharmacist of life is back. lmao.

      Yes Ada, **Whispers you see we are more connected than we thought, our minds are even linked now sef... **Winks. Truly to me Otunne, happiness is but a choice to smile even when life is Fuckedup.com..

      heheheheh Trust Baby mi, this geh is veeeerrrrryyy fine, i am even thinking of marriage sev, but nnnnaaaahhhh.... I havent ended my woman chasing career yet, so amma flex some more before that. :) Thansks for stopping By Otunne, please don't go again oh... **crying in French.. Its cold out here without you. :)

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  6. Happiness means different things to different people. To others happiness means career progression, wealth, health, etc. To me, family means the world to me. Btw, how have you been, Duru?

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    1. Yyyyeeeeessss... Finally! My Nurse of life is backk.. Baby mi, I have missed you pass missed calls oh! Kai, you just left me alone in this cold cold world ba? diarisgodooo... i thought you were mad at me or something.. **Crying in Hausa. I have been great oh Bubba, been falling in and out of love. You know nah, normal style. :) Truly Y.T, Happiness= Family, cause it all starts and ends with them. #FamilyOverEverything. Thanks for stopping by Baby mi, i am glad to see your comment, cause i always have this ghen ghen feeling when you are around.. **Winks.. Please according to section 419, of the commenters code, it quotes and says.. ""thou shall not disappear without prior notice"" so YT mi, just in case you are going AWOL again, biko give me 12 months notice in advance. :) Cheers.

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    1. My Honey bunch, my sugar pie, my Tomato jos, my Asampete, my Blogsville boo.. I see you too Babe... We should hangout you know?? **Wears my Mr. Nigeria smile

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  8. Duru...duru...that's how you are using scope to use your blog to scope a woman. I hope she sees this and she considers you.. I can't wait for the day you would tell us she said YES..*that happy feeling...hmnnn* Just one thing, don't ever rush into a relationship for the wrong reasons. It would happen when it should...be it inside BRT,or on this blog or in the bank,just be patient and enjoy every bit of being single. You know I got your back anyday anytime *oya chop our popular kiss jor*.
    What makes me happy asides from my new blogville family? Hmnnn its the peace that comes with salvation. That peace of mind you have when you know someone as almighty as our God has your back. I mean God is on my side...like on my side o...that feeling ehn..you can't imagine. That's all the happiness I need *winks*

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    1. hahahahahahahahahahahaha Yes nau, shey it is not good ni? we are allowed to use our Blog to toast gehs nah.. heheheh.. Hmmnnn My Moby of life.. This line of your comment caught me...

      ""don't ever rush into a relationship for the wrong reasons. It would happen when it should...be it inside BRT,or on this blog or in the bank,just be patient and enjoy every bit of being single.""

      You are so on point Bubba.. Oya wait let me write it down on my Diary... xx..

      True that Baby mi, GOD brings peace, and I believe that it is peace that brings Happiness, plus hety knowing that GOD has our backs even in the darkest of nights is enough motivation to keep keeping on.... You see you ehn Moby, you are a complete package, asin you know plenty of everything.. whether nah wedding night disaster oh **Winks ( Iread your comment), or love, and most importantly GOD. You are just an awesome lady aswear.. Thanks for coming by, and thanks for the Pep talk both as regard Love nwantintin, and Happiness.. You Rock Moby ogf life.. In Short Oya Chop Kisses.. xo...

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  9. Duru, u rock. Lovely write up. U will soon get to the permanent site

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    1. heheheheheheheheheheh Yesss... bosss... Ms BNG of the Universe in the Building...:) Babe, you need to see me wearing my Mr. Nigeria smile right about now cause of thee oh! Thanks for this awesome comment, amma gonna take a snap shot of it, cause **whispers you na FG pikin, i want Ministerial role oh!.

      I Thank GOD you could relate to this Ms BNG... Please stay oh Bubba, i dont want no run away lofer.. :) pleeaassee. And when are we going to see your face nah baby mi?

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  10. Duru you're such a good writer! But seriously, don't let fine girls kill yøu o◦°˚˚,ah ahn! I was about to say I hope you'll get the first girl but now I'm reading about another one. Come on,go and get married jor.
    Happiness,hmm,I'm glad to say I find happiness in God,people and material things alike. Just remembered the last time I was TRULY happy,things didn't end well but those days I will forever cherish. Ehn,yes,its what you're thinking. And sorry about yøur mean boss,I just hate it when I work so hard for something and feel really proud of myself then someone just comes in from nowhere and kicks me to the curb *ouch

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    1. hahahahahahahahaha get Married ko, get married ni! Oya Ronii **Puts one knee on the ground.... Brings out Journal of thoughts... dusts it, and in my Up coming Barritone voice says... Ronii Davies... Will you marry me??? Oya say yes nah... I am not RICH enough to get married yet oh jari, I am just 22.**Whispers.. You see ehn Baby mi, Chasing girls for me is a hobby. :)

      Awwgghhh Bubba, who was the Bozo that made things not to end well??? I need to go and kidnap the guy and beat him blue black.. in short Beat him with my upcoming muscles till he sees Rainbows and the Sun in the night. **wears straight face.

      Thanks jo, I actually have the best of Boss' just that it felt really bad feeling like dead weight... Thanks for this comment Baby mi, you are a real sweetie aswear. I thank GOD you could relate to this confusion. :) cheers

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  11. John-the-Beloved! You don't even know how my heart jumped when I saw the picture on the left!! As in my eyes widened!! You are just a very special human being lol.. But much love for you.. You rock!!

    I loved this very much.. God and love are the only 2 things that guarantee happiness.. Not always romantic love but love of family, close friends and even blog-fam! It has the capacity to brighten up your day and just be thankful to God for life.. It's a precious thing to be happy.. Really precious.

    PS, please gist me about this new girl that is making you 'happy' haha..

    xx

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    1. Thank GOD oh!!! Phhheewww I was afraid you would go all Gangster on me for putting it up :p, and be angry about it. :). You are really Awesome by nature 1+TheONE, and trust me, diarare more ghen ghen plans in the heart ;).

      Yes Bubba, it took me a while to come to this realization that Happiness is a choice, and funny enough i still haven't actually accepted it fully. But then life is teaching me that; my emotions follow my actions. So when things seem really bad for me, and i found a way to smile, i just realized that things kinda got better. and like you said Love, and GOD are key. Cause if you love GOD, and you love what you are doing, you will smile through the pain.

      About the new Babe, hmmmnnn Lets just say that we shall talk in Camera. :)

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  12. I wrote a beautiful comment but then a call came and when the call was over, the comment disappeared. Now I dnt know how to start again.

    Anyway, I was saying how lovely a post it and how I totally agree with it.
    There was a time I got hurt, someone I really loved left me and it was then I realised my happiness shouldn't depend on any one oe anything or situation as they can all go away. I got to understand that my happiness is truly my choice, my responsibility, my decision.

    When you can read 'moments of relection on my blog. I tokd abt happiness there.

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    1. awwwgghhh Bubba, that's sad oh! Oh well, Technology is not our friend :( And I would so love to read the earlier comment shaaa :(.. issorait though, cause this should do. Yes Baby mi, coming to such realization helps one to really know the true source of happiness is us, and no one or nothing else.. Nice.. amma gonna go over to ya Blog ASAP to read your prescribed post. :) cheers Baby mi.

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  13. Oh yea! I also said I was feeling the gist about the contractor guy. I like that kind thing eh, when young people break protocols

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