Is a mother the one who carries you in her womb? is a mother the one who shields you from pain? is a mother the one who gives you her breast to suckle even on days when she fasts and prays all night? is a mother the one who begged Daddy to not hit you when you broke the glass plates? is a mother the one who reminds you to marry the right woman?! I dont know, but what I know is that a mother isn't just one linked to us by blood, but one linked to us by love.
All my life i have tied the word mother more to hate, pain, fear and grief making it seem like there was really no one, but wasn't there? The truth is there was you ma. You came in and met me and my siblings. A young and Confused boy with pain in his heart and growing confusion in his head. I didn't know you, and heaven knows that for a while i didnt like you. But you loved me regardless. That melted all my stubbornness away, as i grew to love you more and more.
No one believed that I wasn't yours, that you hadn't carried me in your womb for 9 months, that you weren't the one who rocked my cradle from birth. Why? Why didn't they believe? cause you showered me, your Husband, and my siblings with so much joy and love.. I remember when you would give all your salary so we wouldn't go naked... You made me feel loved. I love you Mrs Duru.
Sometimes i wonder why life is so unfair, why the good go thorough pain, why those who deserve to smile are tortured the more by this Bitch called life.. But then mother, i look at you and realize that you are more of a victor than a warrior, and this makes me work Harder. You are my Why Mrs Duru.
As i write this mother, I am all teary and shit, I fell in love with an Hausa girl... We are willing to battle the society and end up together, she is strong Mummy, just like you, and she loves me to pieces, heheh Just like you. Heaven knows I miss you, and from the bottom of my heart, that I love you. I have had to battle Sex, drugs, peer pressure, Alcoholism, and all by myself. I couldnt talk to Dad, i tried to talk to a couple of people, but they dont really understand.. You know Mum, i used to tell you everything, but this distance is fucking with my mind.
I promise You Mum, that for all the pain you went through, i will one day make you proud, that for all the nakedness you went through to buy me Pierre Cardin and Next clothes, i will never forget you. Mother someday, I promise you, we will have more than we need.
Happy 47th Birthday Mum... You are why i didn't turn out so wrong, you are my real Mother figure..