Hi guys.. How is the week Turning out for you?! Great I hope?! So Duru asked me to do a post on love. I really actually do not know what to write especially since I don’t believe in it myself. Don’t get me wrong, fatherly love, motherly love, sisterly and brotherly love, I believe in all of that, but the one that exists between a man and a woman in a relationship.. I don’t believe in it. Maybe because I have been scarred too many times, or maybe I have just seen too many failed relationships, or maybe because I know so many people who put up a show outside just to cover up what truly goes on within.
But before I go any further, please permit me to ask a kind question... Please What is love?
The Bible helps us define love as being neither selfish nor envious;
”Love is patient, love is kind it does not boast and it is not proud”.
The problem with people nowadays is that love is confused with sex. That is the only reason why a guy would say he can’t date someone he can’t have sex with, because the first thing coming to his mind when he thinks about a relationship is sex. Yes the sex is important for guys, but I have come to realize that if a guy truly loves a girl, sex won’t be the deciding factor on whether he dates her or not, this is why people only stay in relationships if the sex is good and not if they love one another.
When you truly love someone, it goes beyond the flesh, that’s why I can tell you without thinking too much about it, that I can take a bullet for my mother because I don’t just love her, I am in love with her. When you love, it is a bitter-sweet experience, because it makes you go the extra mile, that is why I am perplexed when someone who claims to love a woman beats her up, or embarrasses her in public, or even leaves her because the sex is not good enough. When you love, it’s like you have formed a shield around that person to the best of your ability, hence you would rather stones are thrown at you than at that person, you would rather take insults meant for that person than let that person take it alone, you would rather be patient and teach her how to have sex than leave her for someone who is more “experienced”.
It is said that nothing can be compared to a mother’s love for her children. A mother would rather starve than let her children go hungry. I read in a particular newspaper about a plane crash and the only survivor was a very little girl. How did she survive? The answear to that was rather emotional… Cause As the plane was going down, her mother wrapped her up with her body to shield her from the horrific impact of crashing. Talk about true love guys.. Talk about True Love!!!
Someone would ask… is love physical or emotional? Would you date someone with physical disabilities or flaws? Now let me ask, would your mother love you whether you had physical disabilities or not? I was perplexed to hear someone say he couldn’t marry a lady who got blind while they were dating. I mean, nobody prays for evil to befall them, but this is someone who you have “claimed” to love to the extent that you decided that you were going to spend the rest of your life with her… Only for you to bail out because she went blind? Ridiculous, I must say!!!
I personally believe that Love is a connection between two souls, love is trusting, love is enduring, love overlooks all faults, love makes allowances for mistakes, love sees beyond the physical, love is respectful, love is kind, love is time consuming, lol, inshort LOVE is LOVE!!!
Truth is gang... Maybe I believe in love after all, but I am just too scared to let myself go once more. maybe..
Cheers guys and do have a great time of what’s left of the week…
by: Blessing Ehiz (Compere/Host/Writer)