Hello pals?? Happy September! Yyyyyyyaaaaayyy!!! *Dancing Shoki*.. KereSimeSi AKA Christmas is coming.. Can you Smell Christmas in the Air?! :) How have you guys been??? Its your Girl the Anonymous H&M, and mmehn I really apologise for being MIA all this while.. Please how many of us agree that JdB is a HARD Human being to work with?! If you do, biko raise your hand. That my Aburo ehhnn! Some times I feel like squeezing the life outta him… I am soorrrrryyy for being away all the while. But I am here now.. and that counts right?! So lets make LoF shall we?! *Get your minds outta the gutter* My absence was cause I have had my plates full these past weeks, plus JdB is just annoying and I mean it… *Wears Straight Face*..
I have two issues that have been bothering my mind. I know that you guys are kuku very smart so you can help me out.. However, for time sake, I will state them but we will deliberate on just one for now and maybe some other time, talk about the other.. So Deal?! The issues are as follows;
1. Is it cool to still be friends with your ex- es even when you are in another relationship or probably engaged (or even married)???
2. How okay is it to make new friends and meet new acquaintances that are of the opposite sex when you are in a relationship??? I won’t explain this second issue cause its not part of the discussion for the day so lemme leave it and go back to the first one…
‘Is it cool to still be friends with your ex- es even when you are in another relationship or probably engaged (or even married)???’
Yep!! You definitely read it correctly the first time.. *wicked grin*.. I entered one gbege with my fiancée over this matter.. Please I thought ex- relationship meant relationship that didn’t work out?! Does it necessarily mean friendship that didn’t work out?? Come to think of it, I am wondering What he was scared of sef?? That I would go back to my ex?? REALLY NIGGA????!!!!!
Allow me to borrow the Igbo expression- “tu fi a kwa”!! Please note that I don’t think of them as humans or nice folks? No!.. on the contrary, please don’t get me wrong.. They are, but we didn’t happen to bring out the best in each other while we were dating; hence, the expression in local parlance.. **Clears Throat..
“As e no work before, why e go work now?!”
I mean now that I have moved on (to probably someone able to bring out the best in me)??
Abeg o!!! I don’t get the logic behind the fear or whatever my fiancée is saying o.. someone please explain..
Oh!! I see you are probably wondering what I am saying.. Let me ask, please do you throw the baby out with the dirty water after washing him/her?.. As we well all, know this world is a small place.. Hence anything is possible! Let me paint this scenario to elaborate my explanation.. if you had a fiancé who was always insisting that all past relationships should stay dead, and this fiancé had an emergency that only your ex could help, would he/she not allow the ‘ex’ help, especially if it were on a no- condition basis?? See!! Let’s not deceive ourselves… Yeah I get you, anything could happen and so on.. Yes! I get that and I totally agree.. Life is complicated enough. Look! I'm not saying dine with the devil. If you know your resistance or self- control no reach, then leave it be. What I am saying is don’t close all doors completely and finally. Sounds like a bad advice?? Hear me out first please..
Life is too short and the world too small for you and I to know what will be of the other person tomorrow. Relationships are uncomplicated bonds that go wrong because we humans complicate it. This is quite acceptable only if you do not let a failed relationship ruin a great friendship. If the person is a treasure of an individual but relationship didn’t work out, why not just maintain cordial and civilised friendship?? No one knows tomorrow nah. If there is a way to remain plain friends with ex-es, what’s wrong in that?? If the friendship works, great!! If it doesn’t, no harm done!! KaPish..
If you must know team, 98% of the guys I have dated are great friends of mine till date. Choi!! I can see the clocks of your minds ticking, the calculators whirling and you puzzling over the total number I am referring to. Lmao.. leave that one for corner.. that one no concern una *tongue out*.. My own titbit of advice as I round up is this, keep friends rather than enemies; Open doors of love rather than close it, cause you don’t know which out of the friends kept you will need, and which door will be accessible to you when you knock.. LOBATAN O!!
So what do you think Pals?! Friends with the Ex.. Yay or Nay?!