Sunday, 26 June 2016

#MyBachellorsDiary: I met a Friend :)


Hiya Fam! Whats good? Sooo.. Its no more jokes oh! I “have” totally old inside inside me.. I now feel somewhat like an old man in a Young bottle.. You knnow yeah.. like that Old wine new Bottle ish.. Oh Well… #Life

Been thinking a lot about my life.. more like about my Tomorrow than my today.. and I tell you.. when a young man gets to this point in life yeah.. it’s total Bliss and calmness.. as you begin to see beyond confusions and noise. One starts to feel and reason in peace! I cant explain how wonderful it feels though.. but **Deep sigh..  Inhale.. Exhale.. Live :)


For the past 3 years... I have been writing on this series.. #MyBachellorsDiary I mean.. as it’s told tales of my Sexual Lust.. Love.. and Stupid decisions as regards dating and all.. and sincerely yeah.. its been an amazing experience.. and behold; I think I finally found the truth… I finally found the answer to Love. I met a Friend.

I met a friend who wants me in her life.. who wants to talk to me.. be with me.. and chat with me. I met a girl whose happiness makes me Happy.. whose smile lights up my world.. whose skin radiates like the sun no matter how early in the day or late at night it is. I met a friend who makes me happy by default.. who knows the part of me that the whole world doesn’t know exists.. who is simply perfect.. I met a friend.


For so long in my life.. I have been chasing “HappYness”.. being low key hoping that I would fall into the default “Isaac and Rebecca” kinda love.. and this is not to say that that amazing kind of love does not exists no more yeah.. but to say instead that I am learning that most kinds of love develop from friendship. I met a friend.

As I accept Adulthood with hands of HappYness wide open.. I cannot explain how much Wisdom it is bringing.. as I finally seem to understand what has been lacking in my relationships with the opposite Sex. Its hit me that I have for so loooonng being trying to fall INTO love that I have totally forgotten that we need “To fall into friendship” first... so as to actually grow into love. That we need to learn and gravitate from friends into more. Lol.. Cannot believe it took me 3 years and some to figure this out. SMH for you JdB.


GOD willing.. This is officially the last documented series of #MyBachellorsDiary… and I thank you.. for all you have taught me in the past 3 years. To say the least ba.. You all are making me the man I am becoming. Thank you for always being there Fam! Too much love from this side of the P.C mehnn.. Too much Love from me to you.


#Udo #ItcanonlybeGOD

Wednesday, 22 June 2016

'In PURSEsuit of HappYness'

I often forget.. the power of the mind and the value of confusions. I often forget.. the strength in wanting to know.. to understand.. to learn.. grow and discern.. I often forget.

It is interesting how my life is turning out. Of late yeah.. it seems I am somewhat in search of myself. I look in the mirror and I don't see the me I am.. Instead I see the I am becoming. I am searching for myself.. not externally.. but internally.. Where am I?! Who am I?! Who will be?! Where will I be? Hmmnnn. Nawa oh! even me sef I don't understand myself anymore.

All my life Dear Reader.. I have wanted to come to this country.. to see how the Onyibo man lives.. learns.. thrives and does the "Onyibo Magic" that is called Technology.. and my have I seen. For I have seen cars charge up electrically, heard tales of self driving cars, seen NEPA not take light for 6 months straight.. and transmitted electricity without wires.. To say the least yeah.. now that I am here.. I am some what immersed in what i want to become.. that I am forgetting how it feels to be young again.

Gradually but surely.. FB and Instagram are becoming Bores.. I have no more need for LinkdeIn.. at least not for now.. and whatsapp.. **deep sigh.. Whatsapp has become an avenue to propagate my shenanigans. lol... Duru Duru!!

A couple of weeks ago.. I had to go to Birmingham for a job.. and when I signed out at close to midnight.. I found myself running to catch the 900. It was a cold night.. but yet still sweat dripped from my entire body like i was in the shower. There I was.. in pursuit of happiness! there I was.. a 24 year old chasing the things only a 30 year old would chase. There i was.. not in pursuit of comfort nor my today.. but in pursuit of my tomorrow.. in PURSEsuit of HappYness.. #Life.

These are more or less the final moments of this Blog.. I say this not cause I have little time to carry on.. Trust me.. There is ALWAYS enough time for something or someone you Love #tata.. but because the purpose seems to have been almost achieved.. You guys have helped me grow from a Boy to a man.. I sincerely Thank you.

P.S: I joined Tinder, Baddoo, Singles Around Me, NearBy Live, Sex Only (deleted this one.. it wasn't free), and Choice of love... and yeah.. I followed Make up or Break up and joroolumofin on Instagram :)

P.P.S: I tried to type in the URL of my Blog.. and realized for the first 7 seconds .. that I had forgotten it!**deep sigh... 

Current Location: Lanchester Library Cov. 
Current most listened to song: Lost Boy by Ruth B.
Current obseesion; tata.

#Udo #ItcanonlybeGOD

Friday, 17 June 2016

Growing uP- My Story.

So this is what growing up feels like? So this is how it takes away from one; the sting of excitement and replaces it with a truck load of responsibilities and planning? So this is how slowly Instagram and the idea of sharing too much of once life on the “social space” becomes more of a cringe than a “Blood-Rush” of excitement? So this is what it feels like to be grown up… Suffice to say.. that I am not ready.

All my life I have been scared of these moments.. Moments at which I would lose myself in search of Happ’Y’ness or should I simply say- a better life.. Moments at which my goals would be streamlined from the many plenty ideas running through my head.. to but a few critical and revised ones.. ALL directed to my future.. But Holl up a second.. why! Wait! Whats going on here JdB? Where is the Pause Button.. I am not Ready :(

I knew one day the confusions would drop.. I knew one day there would be more clarity in my head! Hell! I have chased these days of my life all be it since the year 2014.. slowly but daily hoping I will get to these moments.. moments when I will be the Pilot of my own fears.. dictator of my own doubts.. and chairman of my own irrational council of thoughts.. and lo.. Behold! Those long sought after days are upon me.. and all I can say is; I am not ready.

I was privileged to talk to an old time lady crush from Nigeria a few days back! Omo! Talking to her alone showed me that of a truth I had grown.. cause at a time yeah Gang.. I wanted her attention so so much.. back then.. craving for a date that would blow my mind..  and alas!! Alas I had her full attention- albeit on but Social Media.. But I had it still! And here I was.. far away from her.. unable to reach and cherish her beauty physically.. unable to look into her eyes and draw wisdom.. unable to maybe kiss or just admire her beautiful Red Lipstick that always blew my mind. So this I compare to life.. to should I say.. “growing up”. You see Gang.. we only have so much time as young people.. young adults.. so don’t wait! Do what ever you want to do! And do it now. **deep sigh.. I am not ready :(

A couple of days ago yeah.. when it was one of my many moments of trying to boil up or should I say “Burn Up” food AKA my many many concussions that I eat here.. it hit me as I was in the kitchen.. that GOD willing yeah.. I will be 25 in a couple of months! To say these scared me is to put it mildly et kindly.. 25! Really? And here I was with Little experience on life.. Dating.. sex et al.. lol. Looking forward on my mind map has made me realize that I had little or no time to learn the things I “don’t” know.. and do the things I “haven’t” done. Suffice to say.. I fear mid life Crisis. Oh Snap! I am STILL not Ready :(

Growing up is one of the scariest of things to me.. not because I am afraid to age.. nahhh.. Far from it… but simply because I am afraid to lose myself. But here I am on the verge of Maturity.. slowly 'missing in Action' before my very own eyes :(.. so again I iterate… If this is what growing up feels like.. I am sooo not ready! but hey!! Since we all have to do this “Growing Up” Thingy.. I should as well get to growing.. Hence wake up.. smell the coffee.. and get at it! cause Ready or not 25 and beyond.. here I come.

#Udo #ItcanonlybeGOD

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Wednesday, 8 June 2016

#MyBachelorsDiary: This thing called love.


Love they say is a beautiful thing.. Hard to understand or express… difficult to find, attain, nor explain.. tough to retain et maintain. Love is one of the most hard to assimilate feelings in the world.. But yet they say.. "Love is worth waiting for or searching for"... and in response JdB ask's; How can you wait for something you are uncertain if you will ever feel? I mean its different waiting for the grades of a Licensing exam to pull through.. or for the millions of Naira owed to you to eventually be paid… but Love is uncertain.. Love is not substantial..  Hence I have similarised waiting for love like waiting for rain to fall on a summer hot Lagos day.


Since coming to this country yeah.. I have taken it upon myself to maximize my and use it to the best of my abilities.. visiting as many English cities and towns as life can carry me.. and low key keeping track of all my escapades, shenanigans, moves and actions.. hence a couple of days ago.. when the opportunity came to go to London.. I dived at it.. and it was then that I like to think "Love found me".

Heheheh I know you would think I mean I met a girl.. Naahh! Far from that.. Instead I mean that I learnt what love means again.. Prior to that moment.. it had been tooooo long. I finally understood what love meant to someone else. While I waited for my Coach to pull up at the London Victoria.. I met a young Onyibo man who struck a conversation out of the BLUES and ended up telling me about how he had gone to Chesterfield for no other reason than to find love. I mean He had met a girl on Keek 2 years ago and they had gotten talking.. found out they liked the best and same of things.. and he had (when the time was right) braved the storm and gone to see her there regardless the crazy distance. P.S: He took a 6 Hours coach to find love.

In my head I was like *Yimu! You never Jamm! By the time Woman do you strong thing ehn.. BoRRy go tell you.. but then I saw it!! I saw the fire in his eyes as he spoke about her.. I saw how his face went from fair to shiny as he described their interactions all weekend.. I saw how he smiled as he described how they both liked snakes, dogs and all.. and just as I interjected him to say How money was more of MY priority.. his phone Rang! It was her! He smirked.. Hinted me and was away for the next 12 minutes ish saying utterly sweet Nonsense to his love.

From my Interaction of last weekend.. I have learnt that love is the most important feeling in the world.. and when it gets you.. it gets you! I have learnt that for us guys.. Love is when a girl glows to us on every picture or date.. love is when thinking of a girl makes us smile sheepishly for reasons we don’t quite know.. love is when we make decisions like going on very long trips just to see her glow and smile and so we can say to her how happy she makes us feel.. love is letting go of our fears and insecurities and taking a leap of faith.. love is sacrificing money and time just to look into her eyes and mutter "I Love You"

And behold... just before I was set to depart the station.. he went off the phone and I told him how Money was my priority and not woman.. and he said “Bruv.. I wish you good love and good Money”.. I smiled and sharpaLLy reversed the statement.. wishing my self “Good MONEY and then Good love” But as I departed.. it hit me.. that that’s what we all miss out.. the final piece of the puzzle… LOVE.. and this Gang.. is greater than the Quid in all her glory.


#UDO #ItcanonlybeGOD